The more I play Texas Hold-em the more I believe it is best to slow play a hand. Whether you are playing poker online or in a live game, the better job that you do of concealing your hand the better chance you have of winning a big pot.
Maybe it is just that women are inherently less aggressive than men but I think making small bets early on or even checking when you have a good hand is a good way to keep the other players off guard. Let the hand develop and wait for the flop to see if your hand is going to get better or worse. I know there are those who say you should bet big when you catch a pair early to get the players who might flop a flush or straight out, but I would rather slow play and take my chances.
If you are sitting on a pair headed to the flop why tip off everyone else at the table that you have a good hand? Once the dealer turns up the first three cards in the middle then you can make a bet if you match something. Since you didn't bet the first time, the other players will have you figured for just a pair when you actually have three of a kind or two pair and they are more likely to stay in the hand.
You might not think there is so much strategy to playing cards but it really is a mind game. I highly encourage you to get a group of friends together and start a regular poker night. The competition makes for great fun. If you really want to be the ultimate host, look at the custom poker tables for sale and get one to transform your rec room into a real poker room like the ones in the casinos.